Gals Grow Up !!!

Recent developments amongst my girl friends inspired me to write this post. Guys, I m sure this post would n't make any sense to you :) .
Back in college first year, friendships formed on where we found our seats, how we met up on Day 1, who will sit next to whom, who they decide to share their secrets with, their lifestyles, how they dress up, common interests so on. Some used to hang out with the other in station or bus stops to wait for the other to get their train or bus. Sometimes two or more would plan and wear the same colour dress or buy same pattern of dresses. Some were close enough that the mothers would pack up an extra lunch or buy the friend too a dress after a vacation. Some stayed at other person's house just for fun or in the pretext of group study. Outings would be planned as a gang, but people would pair up on reaching the destination which would irritate a few others. Lot of petty fights - who would stand next to whom in a group photo or why din't you tell me first or why did you spend time with her or why dint you buy me that gift so on. By end of Year 4 of engineering, lot of things happened. Possesiveness prevailed amongst the gang, there was no Gang effect achieved. Inspite of the efforts of few members of the gang, there were individual friendships formed. The "GANG" remained a namesake.

After engineering and as years passed by, everything was changing. People who were not close became close; and thickest of friends had problems in understanding each other. Some became dormant and cut off from other - no one knew what goes on in their lives. Some worked together in the same company but instead of becoming more closer, that made their friendship worser with no one to blame but office gossips going around. Some became closer with just email contacts; some catching up over the phone once a while. It takes years to know who your true friends are. We grow up as individuals and experiences teach us to see our friends lives in a different perspective too. What we thought they did was wrong back then seem perfectly fine now and vice versa.

Even though each one strived to keep their secrets within just their close friends, the rest of the gang eventually would come to know. After all, we were girls and were friends. Secrets such as their crushes, friends and boy friends, getting jobs, when they are getting engaged, break offs if any, when they are marrying, who they are marrying.. the list goes on. The latest in the list is being pregnant. Pregnancy is such a nice thing and discovering that you are on the way to be a mom is a happy moment. To share this life changing event with girl friends is the best thing to do. But what's happening is some try to hide it, some let a few know and the few who know try to show off with the others that they know first or they keep it as a big secret. How does it matter who became pregnant first or who came to know first about the new joy. But some do seem to make it a big deal. :(

So I just have to say this to them: Gals grow up..!! We were friends coz we are here to help each other, empathise and lend a listening ear to sorrows and joys. To make life easier. There isn't any jealousy involved here. So what if you are pregnant..or your marriage is fixed or anything of that sort, let your friends know. They will be more than happy for you. And to the people who know the secret - we don't care if you knew first. Coz we too know now through some other way.

What are girl friends for if they are not when commitments happen, or relationships break off, taking part in the weddings, sharing daily life events, sharing most wonderful phase changes of life, understanding the other's feelings... and friendship is not certainly to gossip about others, or wondering about the other's life or showing off that they know something first; or to probe what's going on in their life or passing rumours or chatting to get information or just inviting others to every damn irrelevant functions just as a formality!! If you are a friend, you will get to know direct from the person. And if you are the one who came to know first, let the others know in a nice way. Don't ruin friendships.

Here is the nice forward I received. Dedicated to all Girl friends in the world..

A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting her Mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.

Don't forget your girlfriends," she advised, swirling the tea leaves to
the bottom of her glass. "They'll be more important as you get older. No
matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the
children you'll have, you are still going to need girlfriends. Remember
to go places with them now and then; do things with them. And remember
that "girlfriends" are not only your friends, but your sisters, your
daughters, and other relatives too. You'll need other women. Women
always do.

What a funny piece of advice,' the young woman thought. 'Haven't I just
gotten married? Haven't I just joined the couple-world? I'm now a married woman, for goodness sake, a grownup, not a young girl who needs girlfriends! Surely my husband and the family we'll start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!'

But she listened to her Mother; she kept contact with her girlfriends
and made more each year. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she
gradually came to understand that her Mom really knew what she was
talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries
upon a woman, girlfriends are the mainstays of her life. After 50 years
of living in this world, here is what I know about girlfriends:

Girlfriends bring you curry when you need help.

Girlfriends keep your children and keep your secrets.

Girlfriends give advice when you ask for it. Sometimes you take it, sometimes you don't. Girlfriends don't always tell you that you're right, but they're usually honest.

Girlfriends still love you, even when they don't agree with your choices.

Girlfriends laugh with you, and you don't need canned jokes to start the
laughter.

Girlfriends pull you out of jams. Girlfriends help you get out of bad relationships.

Girlfriends help you look for a new apartment, help you pack, and help
you move.

Girlfriends will give a party for your son or daughter when they get
married or have a baby, in whichever order that comes!

Girlfriends are there for you, in an instant and when the hard times come.

Girlfriends listen when you lose a job or a friend.

Girlfriends listen when your children break your heart.

Girlfriends listen when your parents' minds and bodies fail.

Girlfriends support you when the men in your life let you down.

Girlfriends help you pick up the pieces when men pack up and go.

Girlfriends rejoice at what makes you happy, and are ready to go out and
kill what makes you unhappy.

Times passes. Life happens. Distance separates.

Children grow up. Love waxes and wanes.

Hearts break. Careers end. Jobs come and go. Parents die.

Colleagues forget favours. Men don't call when they say they will.

BUT girlfriends are there, no matter how much time and how many miles
are between you.

A girlfriend is never farther away than needing her can reach.

So my dear girl friends, please GROW UP and be a true Girl friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!
And to all the new moms to be, Congratulations and wishing you Good Luck. May God Bless You!